I made it BIG. I got trolled on social.

On my final LIVE for the Slay 35 challenge 4/19/19 I had some unwelcome trolls try to step on my Slay Sisters celebration party.

I was doing a pleasant enough (read: minimal cussing) end-of-challenge LIVE on my Facebook page about slaying 11.4 pounds more in these 35 days of the challenge Namaslayer and mid live video I found myself fielding nasty comments from some trolls.

The trolls were saying things like “don’t lift your arms, your fat and wrinkles are grossing me out” and “you shouldn’t be allowed to have children” …you get the idea–some zingers to get me riled up. They have since been deleted by them. I had to respond quickly! I was LIVE.

How dare they?! I’ll just show them who’s the boss….and, have they SEEN my guns?

— Slayer’s Primal Brain
Have they not seen my guns? hahaha

My physical self and primal brain went spinning upon reading these mean spirited comments about my motherhood, body and children. My “smart” brain was searching quickly for how to handle this at the same time. My brain first wanted me to strike out, to act in anger and zing them good. I am plenty capable of that, this I know from many regretted heated arguments. However, becoming the superhero Slay Detective I am now, I have a super power called the full body scan.

The Full Body Scan

Like an x-Ray machine, all superheroes are equipped with this scanner. It operates a full body assessment in under .01 of a second from the mind!

The trolls must need my love too!

My Mom, the original Love Surge and my youngest daughter Miliona. This was a few years ago before Mom was sick with her cancer battle.

This all happened in about 1 second in my head. I am the master from all this practice of The Model, and my Mother in my ear my entire life saying, “love, don’t hate.”

The thought that came right away was, “come from love and compassion”. This changed my direction from engaging in battle to helping them #getslayed too. They must need to hear me and be here now. They must need my love too! Game on! I got this!

Like the Slay Master I am…

I then weaved in Brene Brown’s Nextflix performance special I had just watched the day before where she talked about how the trolls tore up her famous TED talk on Vulnerability. She then tells us how she wallowed up numbing out with Downtown Abbey all day until the quote bellow by President Roosevelt appeared in her news feed.

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”

― Theodore Roosevelt

Brené Brown’s Call to Courage

Brené shares that this is the moment she made the decision to fully embrace her greatness. To live with courage–no matter what. To be brave and fail no matter what. Yes! Yes! Yes!

This is what I have learned this year. To no longer shy away from my greatness. To stand-up in the face of adversity and NO MATTER WHAT–GET BACK UP. Now that I’m making decisions from the place I call my “heart sing”, or the whispers, I MUST move forward. I have made the decision to forge ahead and live in greatness.

Superheroes stand up in the face of adversity.

Superhero picture

I am currently building my Super Hero Future Self course on how to transform. How to go from living in apathy to becoming your own super hero and pursuing your goal no matter what. These events today were not insignificant.

Fail. Get up. Be criticized. Keep going. Only those you trust should you hold value in their feedback. These events (trolls, Brene Brown, the timing) are not insignificant….

The Universe was telling me three things with these trolls.

  1. I’ve made it BIG. I have trolls! Woo Hoo! They have lit even more fire under this Wild Woman Warrior Storyteller.
  2. Our minds are amazing and so is living from heart sing, the Universe. I could have allowed ego, or hateful thoughts to take over “those f-ing bitches” and I could be completely absorbed and riled up about it, and have everyone else riled up too, or I could celebrate and send them love. CHOICES. We all have choices and can decide how we want to show up. In every moment of every day.
  3. I will be on a plane in disbelief soon, like my hero Brené Brown was, to see Oprah, because I dream BIG and I believe in ME even bigger. Finally. And I KNOW I can help and show others and this is my calling to do so.

I’m ready to dare greatly Teddy and Brené. I will try, fall, and get back up. Over and over because I am here to help others find this magic. And I will die trying, if need be. I’m Slayer.

Bring on the trolls.

With Love,

XOXO Slayer

20 Responses

  1. This is a great story. I have personally watched your GREATNESS unfold these last couple of months. It has been a beautiful adventure. I also witnessed the TROLLS first hand and I saw ‘the moment’ when you went from Fire in your Eyes to Grace from your Heart. I watched you in that second of body scanning…. you softened – your face went softer, your body language changed from alert and ready to attack to shoulders down and heart open. Your smile came back. You decided the Trolls must need something. They must need to learn to be happy, they must need love…how else could a complete stranger say ridiculous, rude and mean things to someone using greatness to help others feel Heartsing and lose weight in the process. I watched you, knowing full well you could splay them out in a second with your words. I saw you as you were turning the table and providing a Kind, Loving approach scared them right off their MeanGirl perches – Trolls be gone!. Dare to Be Great. Dare to Be Kind. The world needs more of the Greatness and Kindness!! Bravo Sister….Bravo!

    1. SuperSoul Super Faith! You bring joy to my heart my soul sister! I’m so happy you were there for it, and to hear you know me so well and have you as a witness! YAAASS! I’m so GRATEFUL for it all. The heartsing, the magic, the Universe, all of what is magnificent about the world we get to explore! I’m happy you are along for the slay and can’t wait to see your next adventure unfold as I see it swirling about you! So awesome! From the bottom of my heart, I can’t thank you enough for all of your soulfelt words. Big hugs!! XOXO Slayer

    1. Thank you Jamie! I will check it out when I’m off my learning break! bahahah! I love Brene! I mean…obviously! Slay it sister! xoxo slayer

  2. Slayer cannot and does not stop! You are my inspiration in so many ways and in so many things! Keep on keepin on. The trolls will always be there but so will the love!

  3. You bring me such joy and determination to continue on my journey! I can’t thank you enough for all you do for me! I absolutely love your blog and everything you give to the slay sisters!!! Love you Slayer #gnarlynelly

    1. Love you back #gnarlynelly! I’m so glad you are here for the slay and I’m looking forward to much more and see what Gnarly creates!! xoxo Slayer

  4. I fucking love you lady!! You continue to rock my world daily!! And….we have trolls now, woohoo!!
    All my love and smooches, tiny dancer, wiseness, or Minkey as my gdaughter calls me

    1. Hee hee! I love ya Tiny Dancer! Thanks for the support, as always! I’m happy to have ya on the slay! Whoop! xoxo Slayer

  5. In the midst of it all I even got a celebration dance! I was super proud of the way you handled that. Love your encouragement .

    1. I wouldn’t miss your dance for the world! So happy I had you Slay Sisters with me for that moment! Magical! XOXO Slayer

    1. Dearest Hestia, I’m so grateful you found your place in the slay! YAAASSSS!! Good things are coming. Keep planning and working to put you first and it’s all coming together! Whoop! XOXO Slayer

  6. I’m so happy I read this today! You are truly a SUPER HERO! Spreading inspiration and courage to all of us (Slay Sisters) The Universe is truly amazing with timing! Slay on Sister!🐉 You Rock!
    Love ya, The Fierce Lioness 🦁

    1. My Dearest Fierce Lioness! I’m so happy if found you when you needed it (and me)!!! I wouldn’t want to slay without ya!!! Looking forward to this next 35 and living and loving even MORE! Whoop! Let’s slay this shit #fiercelioness! XOXO #slayer

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